There are so many poems, songs, letters, etc. all directed at this wondrous feeling we call LOVE. But what is Love really?
What if I told you that LOVE is not a feeling at all, but rather that euphoric feeling you get is the reward for finding love? This is a key element in the path to enlightenment called RIGHTEOUSNESS. I know this may sound odd but bear with me here. Righteousness is not about being extra pious or even religious; it has nothing to do with those concepts at all, in fact, piousness is a result of love and not its source. To put piousness first would be like putting the cart before the horse. Love comes first and from the overflow of what is inside it spills out unto what is outside.
Consider the word called LOVE. The mind rewards with joyful chemicals such as serotonin or dopamine whenever you do something considered correct. The word CORRECT is the basis of the word RIGHT that we use in RIGHTEOUSNESS. So CORRECTNESS is the foundation of LOVE. This may sound odd but I learned an interesting fact from being married to a Japanese lady for over 20 years and that was the word BEAUITUL means ORDERLY. The mind is a calculating machine and it constantly seeks order out of chaos, and this process of finding beauty in order to the Chinese may be known as Fung Shui or even Kung Fu. In India it may be Dharma or Yoga. There are many modalities all based in the sense of order as beauty. In part this comes from the fact we are all made of atoms and thus there is a fractal structure built into everything, most easy to see in snowflakes, metals and trees. A fractal is an object that reproduces itself in a repetitive manner, generally shrinking as it repeats, but always with a form of symmetry. This is the same method in which the Bible is written as a macrocosm and microcosm where many greater things reflect in smaller things and vice versa.
Consider: Macro Micro
- God as FATHER as Mind
- Holy Spirit as MOTHER as Spirit
- Son as CHILD as Body
These same echoes go through Sky/Superego, Waters/Ego and EARTH/Id and so forth.
But again let’s consider LOVE. What is love then if not a feeling?
To the ancient Greeks LOVE was separated into 4 aspects of correctness:
- Body: Éros (ἔρως érōs)
- Spirit: Agápe (ἀγάπη agápē)
- Mind: Philia (φιλία philía)
- Soul or Being: Storge (στοργή storgē)
The Body/Id: Éros (ἔρως érōs)
Eros is the love of the body that desires perfection to reproduce with. It seeks healthy genetic material to unite to and thus it appreciates order, as life is made of fractals and symmetry. The people we consider most beautiful are exceptionally symmetrical. In fact as an artist I was taught that all facial relations are based on the measurement of the eye (Try and measure your facial features based on the width of your eye and see). Beauty means Harmonious, or Orderly, thus it gives ease to the primitive self and seeks to join to it, thus we have our animal drive of a sexual nature. The love drive from the primitive-self to find order is also the driving force that leads to higher-understanding.
The Heart/Spirit/Ego: Agápe (ἀγάπη agápē)
Agápe is the love of heart in relationships. It desires perfect relational bonding so it most often relates to family as an intimate love that is not physical. It relates to what is most perfectly and closely connected to you and it associates all things to itself as a relational wisdom. In other words it’s a selfish love that seeks to make everything good about the self. If something seems correct it then selfishly wants it to belong to you. This is why it plays mother/spirit as it brings forth a connection like an umbilicus to God and creates balance between father/superego and child/Id, but unfortunately it too is fickle and is easily swayed as it wants all things to be about the self.
The Mind/Superego: Philia (φιλία philía)
Philia is a love of the mind without feeling that demands correctness of ideals, aspirations, goals, etc. and links to other similar concepts. It is often referred to as “Brotherly love” as it sees certain people as correct and honorable and closely associates itself to likeminded individuals. This love is that of the superego that feels nothing but only desires order. It is easily seen in music, books, sports, religion and all forms of entertainment, thus you LOVE or HATE a song, show, etc. because of how it resonates with your higher sensibilities. Consider music like Bach and Mozart, this music is math and the harmonious mind revels in the perfection. Consider a joke and the release of joy in solving a mystery/riddle. The mind is what often tries to play God as it is in opposition to the body/Id because the body seeks comfort but the mind seeks goals and ideals. So to the mind’s love is that which is most correct to its own objectives and ideals thus it pits the father’s order against the unruly chaos of the child.
The Soul/Being/Psyche: Storge (στοργή storgē)
Storge is the love of the full soul that is without any other explanation other than it is the sense of being. The entire psyche/soul seeks sustainability through understanding and balance and thus accepts things as they are, as all things are peaceful when all things are in order, even if not perfect, it will accept that which the other loves cannot. Order in balance is the sense of being.
Again LOVE is not a feeling; it is the correctness in everything. This is why our ideal mate is loved in mind, body, spirit and soul. When all are connected as being true it is a bond not easy to separate without utterly destroying the foundations of self. The goal of LOVE is to create a harmonious sense of being and thus it seeks the higher understandings of GOD which is correctness in universal Truth. This is why Christ is known as “Truth” as He is the embodiment of God’s Love for humanity and the spiritual guide we all follow as a process of enlightenment.
The Bible tells us Only God is GOOD, as only GOD IS LOVE… as GOD IS the source of CORRECTNESS/RIGHTEOUSNESS in everything. God is also the great I AM. We see this also in the name of His Son called Emmanuelle, translated “God with (IN) us” …TRUTH is LOVE.
16 And, behold, one came and said unto him, Good Master, what good thing shall I do, that I may have eternal life?
17 And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments.
1 John 4
7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.