Building Your Life: Beliefs Part 1

What is the one gift that EVERYONE will give you freely (If you want it or not) and without the desire or need for its return?

…Their Beliefs, and the Judgments that they formed from them.

This is the one gift we all love to give generously, and with every chance we get. In fact, people’s beliefs are so common that you can’t pick up a stone and throw it without connecting with something that someone else believes in.

Maybe this is because our beliefs create the core foundations of who we are and establish all the things we will stand for. Our beliefs are the building blocks of our greatest possession, our soul, and they are also the one thing that no one else can take away from us… or can they? How secure and solid are your beliefs, and how easy are they to manipulate to the will of others?

Proverbs 14:15 The simple believes every word, But the prudent considers well his steps.

In the course of our lives, we believe in so many different things, and we like to share the things we believe in with everyone else around us, even if they don’t want to hear it. People love the things they believe in, and they are all too quick to deal them out in the form of judgments. We judge the entire world around us, by the measure in which we believe to be correct. In many different ways we are constantly casting our beliefs out in all direction; as we yell at other drivers on the road, frown and complain about the weather, or even change our body language as we become upset at the amount of time it takes for a traffic light to change colors. There are so many different things that we have no control over, but yet we express ourselves towards them as if our will can change it somehow. So if we have no control over something like the weather or a traffic light, why do we express our feelings towards it? That’s because it’s a type of outlet to our social conditioning.

John 7:24 Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.”

Humans are an extremely complex social animal, and most everything we do is influenced by the will of others. We are so often influenced by those willing to do the influencing, that we have become conditioned to believe that even our natural surroundings can be manipulated in some way by simply imposing our will. You may not even be aware that you do this, but you are actually an expert on manipulating your surroundings to conform it to your specific wants and needs. You do this by expressing your will and wishes with your words and with your actions. Some of these interactions are very obvious and some are really quite subtle. It’s like in the 2010 movie Inception, where by implanting even the smallest emotional stimuli into an observers subconscious mind, it can manifest itself through a chain of sequential reasoning, until a conscious decision can fully manifest itself into a physical action. Even the smallest of babies can quickly learn to manipulate their surroundings with a simple cry. So as you can imagine, from that one stage of development and on, we only get more skilled at manipulating our surroundings through the others we influence.

Under The Influence… of others

Options To Statement

  • Agree
  • Find Relief In The Statement
  • Take An Opposing Stance
  • Offer An Alternative
  • Become Hostile
  • Become Introversive
  • Leave The Group
  • Disband the Group
  • Ostracize The Subversive
  • Pretend Not To Have Heard The Statement
  • Follow Along With The Popular Vote
  • Show Your Agitation
  • Make A Mental Note To Avoid This Person In The Future
Right now, as you read this, I too am influencing you with my will that I base upon my own personal beliefs. Let me give you a simple example of what I mean.Imagine I am out with a group of friends for the evening, and I make the statement “I hate cigarette smoke” just as the group entered a smoke filled bar and grill. Now everyone in the group would be caught in a dilemma that could affect the rest of the evening. I have now drawn a line in the proverbial sand, because I have taken a stance on a particular belief of my own, and by choosing a strong word like “Hate” it inferred a state of obstinacy to being around cigarette smoke. From that moment on, if anyone makes a statement to the contrary they risk facing my retaliation. This one word “Hate” has now changed the mood of everyone within hearing range, and the immediate reactions that follow will hinge on the responses given to this statement.Typically, the expressing of body language will be the first response to this difficult situation. It may start as a brief pause, followed by a moment of tension and an awkward silence. Then perhaps someone may sigh, roll their eyes, scratch their head, shift their weight, or even stick their hands in their pockets and look away. These are all signs of a mounting agitation within the group. On a subconscious level, an average adult is fairly well trained at reading these subtle signs in others, and before a single word is spoken a gut reaction begins to form. In that brief one second pause from the declaration of “I hate” our minds engage and a type of mental dance of the wills has begun, where each person tries to outthink and outstep the reactions of the other.Quickly, someone in the group will try to pacify the situation and assume the role of the peace maker by suggesting an alternative activity or location more suitable to accommodate the needs of the entire group, thus averting further upset to the evening’s activities.

That one simple statement of “I hate cigarette smoke” caused a cascading effect that affected everyone involved, and changed the immediate surroundings to potentially fit the specific wants and needs of the person making the stand.

Our will is a powerful weapon and a defense mechanism that engages whenever the slightest hint of our ideal situation is threatened. We argue, grumble and complain even when we are not consciously aware we are doing it. Watch the next time when someone says something that you find unpleasant. Try to fight your natural urge to express you unhappiness. Try not to show any of your displeasure. Don’t sigh, pause, swallow harder, look away, grit your teeth or hold your breath. You may find this to be a much harder exercise than you think, because your mind is conditioned to express its displeasure and it wants to vindicate its own beliefs.

Also, enforcing your will often has some collateral damage. Not only is your immediate target affected but so is everyone else observing the reactions. In the example above when I expressed my displeasure with cigarette smoke, inadvertently I also affected someone at the bar that picked-up on the group’s body language before it left, which was misread as something else entirely.

“Those people left because they think they are too good for us here… there is nothing wrong with this place… or me… I hate that type of people”



Stay tuned, big things are coming! AND if you liked this spread the Word!

10 thoughts on “Building Your Life: Beliefs Part 1”

  1. Your post reminds of something my pastor said last Sunday. He quoted Chuck Swindoll as part of his sermon:
    “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” I can really relate to this.

  2. Well said, Daniel. I really enjoy your blog. And thank you for following mine. I know I will find some great conversation hear and I hope you find the same to be true of my blog, as well.

  3. Reblogged this on Coffee, God and Gardening and commented:
    Have you ever had one of those days where you just don’t feel very lovable? Despite how your day started off, by the time things really get going, you’ve had enough of everything and everyone.

    That’s me, today. My morning started off just beautifully. I even read the following post on Daniel laid out such a wonderful post on how our opinions and judgements mold the world around us and how our beliefs (judgements, opinions, etc.) influence the people around us.

    That was within my first hour out of bed. It’s probably a good thing I read that post, because it quickly went downhill from there. Hubby announced that he was working from home, today. OK, there goes my morning use of the computer. Then, as I’m catching our oldest up on schoolwork from last week, hubby declares that I should probably get her ahead so I can help him on Thursday? What I heard was, “I don’t care that you’re still getting her caught up from the two days you helped me last week; or that this is the last week of school. I expect you to get her caught up and ahead by Thursday so that you can help me do a job that I bid for one person to do.” In that split second, I caught myself doing exactly what Daniel described. I projected myself and my feelings all over that request.

    I promptly took up Daniel’s challenge to fight my urge to whine, complain and voice my concern over this not being possible. Talk about a tall task that I failed miserably at! Several times throughout the morning, I caught myself explaining to our oldest that I had to try to get her caught up and ahead so I could help Daddy later in the week. . . loudly enough for my husband to hear. I’m still not happy about the situation, but at least I’m more conscious of how my will wants to manipulate it!

    All of that being said, I really wanted to share this post. It emphasizes the need to reach out in love, in order to share God’s love with those around us.


  4. Nice post. What I’m discovering more each year is how we have diminished the word ‘belief’ into a statement of mere rational categories divorced from our passions, desires, relationships, decisions…the way we actually live. If I say I believe that a chair will support my weight, it is not ‘belief’ biblically until I actually sit down.


  5. How true this is! How often do we remind ourselves to watch what we say around certain people? I’m sure many of us have that person in our lives that we really do not enjoy the company of, just because of how quickly they make their opinions known or deal out their judgement. It’s hard to reach out to those people in love, but it’s necessary if we’re to share His love to them!

  6. Our childhood years and conditioning from previous generations creates ideas, morals, values and prejudices. Jesus can and will remove these mindful thoughts and change our programing once we become aware. It’s God’s job to judge, not ours, it’s difficult to learn to observe, hold our tongues and rest in the peace of our Lord, thanks Daniel for your spiritually targeted analogies….it’s like a dose of Miracle Grow to flowers.

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