It is said “Time heals old wounds“. This is true… if we let it.
Time is our most precious gift we have. Why? Because we have so little of it. Some days it just seems to drag on by, but always when we look back, it seems, there was never enough to go around. Today when you woke up you most likely looked at the clock and tried to figure out how much more you could sleep and still get away with it. Tonight when you go to bed you will also undoubtedly look at the clock then too. We govern our lives to an unheard symphony with rhythms that beat in cadence to the metronomic ticks of unseen hands that conduct our daily affairs. We govern ourselves with the steady tick-tick-tick sound that clicks away inside the back of our minds as we wake, work, eat, sleep and entertain ourselves. Our age, our beauty, our biological clocks all seem to be measured by this relentless foe who seems to be always on the march and ready to wage war on our happiness.
Some of us are always early to the places we believe we need to be, while yet others are perpetually late… But all of this is relative to our perception of a necessity for timeliness. The real question you need to ask yourself is “Are all the things I am doing really that important to my personal goals, in life, that I need to fit these activity into my extremely limited allotment of time?” Sadly the answer you may find is often “No”. So maybe we need to prune away a few things, here and there, so our lives can flourish and blossom into things that really matter to us most. So now how do we know what’s important and what‘s not? Well life is a journey and we all have a goal. It is our straight and narrow path, if you will. Like any marksman who has a target before him, he aims at the mark on the target and fires in a straight line. He would never fire away from the target and hope it will magically turn on its own and find the target without his pure effort. Sure you might get multiple chances with ammunition but life comes with only one shot. So we need to make it count and use our time more selectively.
Often times, you will find men say “I don’t understand. What more do my wife and kids want from me? I give them everything they could need. A roof over their heads, food in their bellies and all the things they could want. What more could they ask of me?” Well the answer is simply, they need you. They need that one thing that only you posses to give that never grows old or out of style. It is the greatest gift on earth because unlike most things you can never make more of it. You can always make more money, but where can you get more time? Can you buy it in a store. Can you earn it in an office? And where could you ever steal it from? Your loved ones need your eyes and ears and patience and presence. They need your attention, approval and love. They don’t need just your things, no matter how expensive they may be. What they need is you. Things always break, fall apart, and grow outdated and out of style. But your time never does because ironically, your time is timeless. This gift outlasts all other gifts. Sure, when your children are little they chase you around looking for your constant approval and attention, but as they grow older it is you that chases them for it instead. But the reality is they never really outgrow you. They will always need you and your approval. We as individuals just don’t function correctly in a world without the love, respect and approval of our loved ones. Without it , in the places of our lives that should have been filled with love and approval gaping holes exist instead. Sure, these wounds heal and some of these scars define us… but are these wounds you want them to live with because of you?
Love your family and love your friends… because money you can make more of it with effort, but time you can’t. It marches. It moves forward unceasingly, and it fades quickly. Money is quick and easy to spend on someone… but time, takes time and effort to spend on someone you love. So give the gift that matters most…. Your time. Because in the end, it’s all you really got worth giving. I have heard it said. “How do you spell love?